an idea which I think is funny, wacky, out of the box, and then realize that it may not be in the best of taste. I've done this kind of thing fairly often in my life----responded to something with an off-the-cuff pronouncement and later regretted it, having had my insensitivity pointed out to me. I hate it when I do that!
This morning at the calendaring session for the new church year, I did not use my cutesy acronym WACCOS (Wine and Cheese Conversations on Sources) because another blogger was kind enough to help me see that this could be off-putting to anyone who struggles with alcohol issues. Duh! How come I didn't see that right away? I've struggled with alcohol issues myself and have usually been sensitive to that kind of thing. It takes a word from someone else, sometimes, to see my own blindness (no pun intended). Of course there would have been non-alcoholic beverages at the event---that's not the point. The point is that "wine and cheese" partying is excluding, not including, of some people.
You would think that, after 65 years of doing this sort of thing, I would have figured out that this trait could get me in trouble. But noooooooo, I have to re-remember it every few weeks! It's funny, almost, that someone like me who bends over backwards not to get in trouble would do this so unthinkingly on occasion. And when it does happen, I'm a bit embarrassed and do what I can to remedy my error, but you'd think I'd learn!
What I have learned is how to make amends, how to offer a sincere apology, how to avoid the same mistake next time. I just haven't learned how to avoid making different mistakes the next time! Some of it is my natural exuberance leaking out; some of it is forgetting that when I'm acting in a ministerial role, I have to be careful. But it puts a crimp in some of my relationships with people and I really regret that. Thanks to Ellis for her kindness in helping me see it this time.