tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30312228.post5110555963022985489..comments2023-11-03T06:26:00.486-07:00Comments on Ms. Kitty's Saloon and Road Show: Asking for what we need is scary!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30312228.post-36323356476901319652007-03-08T18:42:00.000-08:002007-03-08T18:42:00.000-08:00Not asking for what we want is indeed a woman thin...Not asking for what we want is indeed a woman thing. We're taught not to rock the boat and to go along to get along. However, if we're going to get our fair share in the world, we have to get over that and learn how to ask for what we want without being obnoxious...which is actually very easy to do. <BR/><BR/>I would echo Miss Kitty's quoting of Jesus, whom I think of as a feminist. One must ask so that others know what we want and can let us know if they can meet those needs. There's nothing wrong with being clear with others; it's a very kind thing to do with others.Mile High Pixiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03276750909800945131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30312228.post-951195463503014112007-03-07T21:33:00.000-08:002007-03-07T21:33:00.000-08:00I have gotten much better over the years, but I st...I have gotten much better over the years, but I still get scared to ask, I still agonize over whether I've asked properly or have asked for too much, etc. However, I've learned that when I don't ask, I get more resentful of the status quo. Of course, sometimes I ask and get turned down, and I must say I am not a happy camper then, unless the reasons for being turned down are understandable and I can see the point.Lilylouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02328027965155428624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30312228.post-44774880217150656602007-03-07T19:04:00.000-08:002007-03-07T19:04:00.000-08:00Is this a woman thing? I feel the same way. I ten...Is this a woman thing? I feel the same way. <BR/><BR/>I tend to say, "Oh, it's okay, don't worry about me..." (back of hand to forehead). Fortunately I am married to a man (co-minister partner) who says "This is not okay!"<BR/><BR/>So I am learning.<BR/><BR/>Also, I'm a total ENFJ like you. No wonder we like each other!Berrysmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209763327019181639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30312228.post-56892282149709737412007-03-07T18:44:00.000-08:002007-03-07T18:44:00.000-08:00I think a LOT of people have trouble asking for wh...I think a LOT of people have trouble asking for what they need. I'm one of those people. Whether it's asking my loved ones for something, or asking for a raise, or asking customers to buy something, I've always had a tough time with it. <BR/><BR/>I'd mention what Jesus said about "Ask, and ye shall receive," but I think that might be sacrilegious [sp?] of me.Miss Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13210249894351503887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30312228.post-41386680388291948032007-03-07T09:55:00.000-08:002007-03-07T09:55:00.000-08:00I have a lot of trouble with this too, particularl...I have a lot of trouble with this too, particularly when I think if I ask for too much, I'll just not be hired in the first place or have my contract nixed.<BR/><BR/>But I like the idea that it is important to ask for what you need regardless of the outcome. That's really helpful to me. thank you.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18040824813209082919noreply@blogger.com